“I feel ashamed to be an Indian”

November 1, 2008 · Filed Under Parenting, marriage, society · 1 Comment 

… Laments a harassed husband, ostensibly a NRI.

India being my mother nation it is with heavy heart I’m saying that I wish to change my citizenship to a country where men are not considered to be criminals and rapists by birth! I feel ashamed to be the citizen of a country where its administration and judiciary do not respect the
Constitution by denying men the right to equality and livelihood. I feel ashamed to say that i’m an Indian, when my own minister comes and humiliates me in public for no reason at all with 20000% exaggerated figures of crimes!!! Is marriage a crime in India? Is divorce a crime in India? If there are 20000 pending cases it shows the inefficiency of the administration. Does the minister want all those 20000 accused to
live in the court until the case is finished? Will the court or government pay for their livelihood?

I happen to see the proposal made by NCW (National Commission for Wives?), wherein Indian women are portrayed to be continually subjected to extrema form of cruelty by their NRI husbands. If they think women’s life is in great danger with NRIs why cant they ask for making marriages with NRI illegal? instead of pushing *innocent* women
into danger!!! Why are they more interested in husbands’ hard earned money, properties and even rights in husbands’ parental property? Don’t you think these are against the Constitutional rights?

When I got married I was in fool’s heaven to think that I got the girl of my choice. But later I realized my bitter-half mis-represented herself with the fabricated profile and when I seek divorce they gave me and my parents the title of CRIMINALS!!! by filing IPC Sec 498a and asking Rs.32 lakhs for mutual consent divorce and withdrawing the cases!!!.. Where I’ve NOT demanded a SINGLE PENNY for marriage and where there is no question about dowry at all!!! Mera Bharath Mahaan! It is only with
God’s grace my age old parents having high BP are still alive.

  • [1]Where else in the world can we see someone is first titled “Criminal”, put in jail and then ask him to prove his innocence!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see a divorce case lasting 5 to 15 years or more!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see family issues put in Criminal category!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see Father paying maintenance to the kids and wife but no rights to child custody!!!
  • [1]Where else in the world can we see even senior citizens are dragged into the police station and courts without any investigation!!!
  • [2]Where else in the world can we see only wives are *empowered* but mothers, sisters and sons are completely ignored!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see 1,07,935 married men doing suicide in just 2 years!!!
    Where else in the world can we see a Govt who listen only to Godhra kinda appeals!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see wives blackmailing husbands LEGALLY!!!
  • Where else in the world can we see wives kidnapping kids LEGALLY!!!

I know my voice will not be heard by anyone and I don’t even expect any reply, but I hereby express my deepest sorrow and utter shame for being an Indian.

  • When can I see Gender-biased laws [1][2] trashed?
  • When can I see Gender neutral laws established?
  • When can I get my basic rights?
  • When can I live in peace?

~ A member of the Save Family Foundation, an NGO.

[1] - As per Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code
[2] - As per Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act

Read also : Are NRI’s second class citizens, in the eyes of Indian Government?

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Seven-yr-old faces dowry charges

July 22, 2007 · Filed Under India-centric · Comment 

7-year old innocent boy arrested for committing dowry harassment!!A seven-year-old has been charged in a dowry case in Bihar.

Santosh, a class four student has paid the price for a crime he did not commit.

”They framed me in a dowry case. I study in class 4. Police came to my house and asked for money. They threatened to send me to Munger otherwise,” he said.

Santosh was named in a dowry harassment case last year along with his parents and his elder brother.

Strange are the ways of police in India!

Read the full story from the NDTV web site.

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Broken Bangles!

July 20, 2003 · Filed Under Parenting · 1 Comment 

Broken Bangles
A heart-wrenching episode that appeared in Rediff.com takes you to another world!
No, never will anyone break anyone’s bangles, any tiny heart!
Read it here:: Rediff Diary by Suresh G O

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Combating pedophilia

June 22, 2003 · Filed Under General · Comment 

“U.K. policemen caught in pedophile racket”
“Child sex scandal has engulfed the Church in recent months.”
“Alarm over child abuse through the Net”
Makes disturbing reading indeed!
My kingdom (whole of it!) for an Utopia for children, where they will be permitted to be just children!

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.: Do fingers grow back? :.

April 20, 2003 · Filed Under Parenting · 1 Comment 

I read this piece somewhere on the net and can’t control my anguish.
Will folks ever learn the lesson, I wonder!

A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into a pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, “Daddy, I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?” The father went home and committed suicide.

Think about the story the next time you see someone spilled milk at a dinner table or hear a baby cry. Think first before you lose your patience and become angry with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones and hurt feelings often cannot. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE CRUEL…

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Daddies beware!

April 7, 2003 · Filed Under Parenting · 1 Comment 

There must be a law against such daddys!Christina Aguilera, the singing superstar has hauled her cruel father over the coals for having made her childhood a nightmare. She explains it vividly in her latest album Stripped. The number is ironically labeled, “I’m ok”!
Many parents are abominably stupid in making the childhood experience of their children a veritable hell.
These lines from the song bear testimony to the agony and the trauma that she, as a hapless child had undergone!

“The echo of a broken child screaming “please no more”
Daddy, don’t you understand the damage you have done
To you it’s just a memory, but for me it still lives on

Bruises fade father, but the pain remains the same
And I still remember how you kept me so, so afraid
Strength is my mother for all the love she gave
Every morning that I wake I look back to yesterday

It’s not so easy to forget
All the lines you left along her neck
When I was thrown against cold stairs
And every day I’m afraid to come home
In fear of what I might see there”

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The basic right!

April 7, 2003 · Filed Under Children, Parenting · 2 Comments 

Look at those expressive eyes! Don’t you have a duty towards her?The indifference and selfishness of adults rob the children of their basic right - the right to be children!
Please, for heaven’s sake, allow children to be themselves!
The greatest and most enduring gifts that the parents can offer to the children are love, wisdom and courage!

 

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