Succeed in Life
Why some people fail?
More people fail not because they lack knowledge or talent but because they quit. That is the first reason why we fail. These presentation slides describe seven reasons why we fail in achieving greatness in ourselves.
A presentation from ExploreHR.org
Believe in yourself and listen to your inner voice!
Learn to respect your hunch.
“A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts: they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The art of Simple Living
A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village and an American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
“Not very long,” said the fisherman.
“But then why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?” Asked the American.
The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.
The American asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”
“I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go to the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play guitar and sing songs… I have a full life.”
The American interrupted “I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat. With the extra money the bigger boat will bring, you can buy more boats until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling fish to the middle man, you can go directly to the processing plant and maybe even own your own plant. Then, you can leave this little village and direct your enterprise from Mexico City or even New York City!
“How long would that take?” asked the Mexican.
“Twenty, maybe 25 years.” replied the American.
“And after that?”
“Afterwards? Then it gets really interesting, answered the American, laughing. “When your business gets really big you can start sellingstocks and make millions!”
“Millions? Really? And after that?”
“After that, you’ll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta, and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends!”
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The moot point is, to live today or, after 30 years!
(From CommonCraft Blog)
Don’t sweat the small stuff - a review
Yes, don’t fret over a trifle and make your life a miserable one! A sane advice indeed!
Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that big a deal. We focus on little problems and concerns and blow them way out of proportion. a stranger, for example, might cut in front of us in traffic. Rather than let it go, and go on with our day, we convince ourselves that we are justified in our anger. We play out an imaginary confrontation in our mind. many of us might even tell someone else about the incident later on arther than let it go.
Why not simply allow the driver to have his accident somewhere else? Try to have compassion for the person and remember how painful it is to be in such an enormous hurry. This way, we can maintain our sense of well-being and avoid taking other people’s problems personally.
There are many similar “small stuff” examples that occur every day in our lives. Whether we had to wait in line, listen to unfair criticism, or do the lion’s share of work, it pays enormous dividends if we learn not to worry about little things. So many people spend so much of their life energy “sweating the small stuff” that they completely lose touch with the magic and beauty of life. When you commit to working to ward this goal you will find that you will have far more energy to be kinder and gentler.
Here are some of the nuggets of wisdom found in the book:-
- Make peace with imperfection
- Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences
- Learn to live in the present moment
- We allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments
- The aim for perfection and desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other
- If someone throws you a ball, you don’t have to catch it
- Choose your battles wisely
- Trust your intuitive inner voice
But one trend of his advice to lead one’s life is something I am unable to fully agree with since it is not consonance with the real world and the way people’s mind works. He advocates universal love like a preacher! Many of his axioms are fit only for an Utopia! He champions a sense of altruism, which will practically make you a perpetual sucker in this man-eating-man world!
Look at this piece of advice in his book:-
If in doubt about whose turn it is take out the trash, go ahead and take it out.
Well, if you follow this wise counsel, you will end up carting trash throughout your life and other folks may even palm of their further fatigues on you!
As I was writing a review of this book, I just came to know he is no longer with us. With a poignant note, I stopped the critical review and wanted to remember the man as one who loved humanity and wanted to make everyone’s life a better one.
The Memorial message on his web site ends with this solemn observation:-
Richard Carlson left his own trail as he walked the earth and lived a life devoted to peace, love, and the betterment of humanity.
Let me end this with the cardinal message from Mr. Carlson:-
“Treasure yourself and the Gift of Life!”
It is your life!
Here are some more motivational and inspirational stuff for successful living on this planet!It tolls for thee!
No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.!
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.
- You do not need to know everything. It is only human if you have to ask someone.
- The world needs anger. The world continues to allow evil because it is not angry enough.
- You must know how to fall of the horse without hurting yourself.
- Every fall, failure or defeat is a comma, not a full stop. Plan around them, not against them.
- I never let schooling interfere with my education.
~ Mark Twain - Kites fly highest against the wind, not with it.
~ Winston Churchill - One of the keys to happiness is bad memory.
- Always listen to feelings as well as meanings.
- I am grateful:
- For the teenager son who is not doing up his room, but watches TV, because that means he is at home and not at the streets.
- For the taxes, because it means I am employed.
- For the mess to clean after a party, because it means that I have still some friends.
- For too much email, because it means so many people think of you (including bots!)
- For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours, because it means that I am alive!
- Learning is a process of discovery and we must be our own discoverers.
~ Dewey - We are all prisoners of our own past.
- Getting it wrong is part of getting it right.
- Tomorrow is another day, another opportunity.
- Life is a book still to be written.
- We are so absorbed in our own surroundings that we forget to look over the fence.
- The aim of perfection and desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other.
- The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude.
~ William James - Do not let trifles affect your mental harmony. Don’t overrate adverse situations.
- Life is what is happening when we are busy making other plans.
~ John Lennon - Now is the only time we have and the only time we have any control over.
- Who said life was going to be fair, or that it was even meant to be fair.
- I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.
~ Mark Twain - You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
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Do not believe, just because wise men say so.
Do not believe, just because it has always been that way.
Do not believe, just because others may believe so.
Examine and - experience yourself!
~ Buddha
- “One life, one chance – grab it. Get the life you love – and live it.â€
Says Arvind Devalia in his book:
- “There are lots of ways of being miserable, but there’s only one way of being comfortable, and that is to stop running round after happiness. If you make up your mind not to be happy there’s no reason why you shouldn’t have a fairly good time.”
~ Edith Wharton - “Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to othersâ€
~ Jonathan Swift - “People who get things done, just do things. They don’t sit at home waiting for their self-belief to grow. They don’t fill their days and nights reading self- improvement books. They just get out and do things”
~ Fiona Harrold - “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”
~ Pericles - When I’m authentic in my words and actions, it’s amazing how things come together in my life.
- “When you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Practical Wisdom
Here are some more motivational and inspirational stuff for successful living on this planet!Living is an art!
Every men dies
Not every man really lives!
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.
- Living is a reality and you can’t run away from life!
- Life is a continually evolving experience.
- Accept living with problems as a reality. Don’t be paranoid of the pitfalls!
- Never mistake knowledge for wisdom.
- Specialize on the impossible!
- Remember, the same moment you say, “I give up”, someone else will be saying “My, what a great opportunity!”
- Use the past as a springboard, not a hammock.
- People judge you by your actions, not your intentions.
- All roads to success are uphill.
- You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do.
- Know that yesterday ended last night.
- Every now and then bite off more than you can chew!
- It is not the mountains we conquer, but ourselves.
~ Edmund Hillary. - Every problem carries a seed of its own solution.
- Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I’ll show you a failure.
- Prefer the foolishness of enthusiasm to the indifference of logic.
- Do small things in a great way.
- Be quick to take advantage of an advantage.
- Learn the rules. Then break some!
- Avoid following the crowd.
- Why worry about things you can’t control? Get busy controlling the things that depend upon you.
- Do something that you don’t have to do.
- Keep your goals out of reach, not out of sight.
- Dare to think unthinkable thoughts.
- You are destined to be different.
- Gain the advantage by doing things before they need to be done.
- Desire more than you can accomplish.
- Believe in miracles!
- Learn from the mistakes of others.
- Find a reason why you can.
- Don’t be afraid to ask dumb questions.
- Stay incurably curious.
- Leave the beaten path occasionally and drive in the woods.
- It’s passion that persuades.
- Don’t spend your life answering a question nobody�s asking.
- Don’t let regrets replace your dreams.
- Be an expert at “why”, not “why not”.
- Keep your eye on the road and use your rear-view mirror only to avoid trouble.
- Do more than is required of you.
- Don’t make the mistake of letting yesterday use up too much of today.
- Be unpopular when necessary.
- If you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.
~ Somerset Maugham. - Cause something to happen.
- Know that the starting point for all achievement is desire.
- When your strategy is hit or miss, you�ll usually miss.
- You are only an attitude away from success!
- It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.
- All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
- What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- I may not be able to change the world I see around me, but I can change the way I see the world within me.
- We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.
- Quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
- It is unfortunate when people allow themselves to get like concrete: all mixed up and permanently set.
- Always do more than is required of you.
- Leadership has less to do with position that it does with disposition.
- It is tragic when we put off living. We dream of a magical rose garden over the horizon and miss the roses blooming outside our windows.
- True greatness consists in being great in little things.
- I started where the last man left off.
~ Thomas Alva Edison. - Hang in there, show up! You’ll win!!
- Eighty per cent of success is in showing up at the right moment at the right place!
~ Tom Peters. - Do not try to major in minor things.
- Instead of trying to minimise your weaknesses, try to maximise your strengths!
- The past is history
The future is a mystery
Today is a gift
That is why we call it ‘the present’!
~ From FISH! - When disaster strikes, we shed copious tears and mope around for a while, but in time, we learn to accept fate’s irrevocable edict!
- When it doesn’t work to go like a rhino, act like a swarm of bees!
~ Arun Shourie. - Throughout the centuries there were men who took first steps down new roads armed with nothing but their own vision.
~ Ayn rand. - You must know how fall off the horse without hurting yourself.
- Every fall, failure or defeat is a comma, not a full stop. Plan around them, not against them.
- Take a spare paddle when you row up the creek.
- Always plan a way “out”, before you make a way “in”. Remember the fate of Abhimanyu.
- Plan for a back-up strategy, just in case while venturing into something in which the stakes are high.
- “It is a mistake to try to look too far ahead. The chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a time.”
~ Sir Winston Churchill - Chairman of $1.1 Billion Wipro Corpn, Mr.Azim Premji’s aphorisms for life in his speech at IIT/Roorkey on 17th Nov 2003:
- Learn to lose and also to enjoy winning. And when you do lose, do not lose the lesson.
- Have faith in your own ideas even if everyone tells you they are wrong. Have enduring faith in yourself because then you will always have enduring faith in others.
- Life’s battle does not always go to the person who is stronger and faster. But the person who wins is the person who thinks he can.
- Strive for excellence. We are what we repeatedly do. Remember, excellence is not an act but a habit.
- Always keep in mind that it is only the test of fire that makes fine steel.
- Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. Your values are your foundation for life.
- A rupee earned is of far more value than five found.
- “Success is 99% failure”
~ Soichera Honda, founder of Honda Motor Corporation. - Invest some time in identifying what adds real value to your life.
~ Chris cole - It is how you handle failure makes a difference in your life.
- Smile. Tomorrow may be worse!
~ The Murphy Philosophy. - Do not believe in miracles.
Rely on them! - Always draw your curves. Then plot your readings, since most major decisions are taken first; the basis on which they are supposedly taken is worked out later!
- Creativity is allowing yourself to commit mistakes.
~ Scott Adams - “Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.”
~ Reggie Leach. - “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
~ Mark Twain - “Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.”
~ Al Franken
Start Living!
I wish to list the time-tested tips and motivational ideas to achieve success in life and also dwell on the wisdom handed down to us through generations to live in this planet in harmony with the fellow human beings and to give an insight into what makes success and how to achieve an all-round happiness in life!
Achieve Success!
Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is for you!
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Hope you’ll enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it!
- Your appointment with Life is this moment.
The place of appointment is here, this very place.
Make the best out of it! - Each day is a Miracle!
- Each breath of wind
- Each flurry of snow
- Each bit of good news
- Savor them!
- You won’t be here forever!
~ Tom Peters.
- Life is a banquet and most damned fools prefer to starve!
- The principal business of life is to enjoy it!
~ Samuel Butler. - Always behave like a duck: stay calm and unruffled on the surface, but paddle like the devil underneath!
- Do not feel guilty and refrain from voicing a firm “No” when “No” and “No” alone is the answer!
- We lose our spirit of Living because we are too busy existing.
- Stop Existing (or, muddling through); Start Living!
- Don’t hurry through your life. Take your time. Savor it. Engage it with your whole being.
- Who is a Friend? Someone with whom you dare to be yourself!
- “I ruined Time; now the time is ruining me!”
- Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
- Stop digging if you are already in a hole.
- We see things not as they are, but as we are.
- You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
- The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.
- Either you try to find a way or make one!
- If you want to achieve excellence, quit doing less-than-excellent work.
- We are so much more than what we are.
- You are at once your own best friend and worst enemy too!
~ Bhagavat Gita. - Never denigrate yourself.
- Play up your best points.
Put up a dignified and respectful appearance.
You’ll start believing in yourself. - Let not the barks of puppies frighten you, not even the thunderbolts of heaven, but stand up and work!
~ Swami Vivekananda. - What you think you are makes what you are.
- My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there.
- Cowards die many times before their deaths, but the valiant never taste death but once.
~ William Shakespeare. - Every exit has an entry somewhere.
- The real measure of your wealth is how much you are worth when you lose all your money.
- Success is not in holding good cards, but in playing right with what you hold in hand.
- Life is like music; it must be composed by the ear, feeling and instinct, not by the rule.
~ Samuel Butler. - I took the road less traveled by and that made all the difference.
~ Robert Frost. - Those who stare at the past have their back turned to the future.
- Victory is what happens when 1000 hours of hard work meets with one moment of opportunity.
- If you want to achieve instant success, create a need and fill it!
- Trust only those who stand to lose as much as yourself when things go wrong!
- Climb the Everest within you!
- Life is either a daring adventure or nothing!
~ Helen Keller. - Do not fret over what is past and gone;
Live each day as if your life were just begun!
~ Goethe. - I am the master of my fate.
I am the master of my soul!
~ W.E.Henley. - Only dead fish swim with the tide!
- Choose your enemies! A navigator never argues with an iceberg (Perhaps he has viewed Titanic!) - He avoids them!
- Never miss an opportunity to talk about you, your business, your ideas and how others can benefit out of your business. But don’t overdo it.
- Associate yourself with individuals who have influence and power to assist you in getting where you want to go.
- Be receptive to new ideas. Don’t have a closed mind and erect a wall about you.
- You can and should shape your own future; if you don’t, someone will surely will!
- Never carry a chip on your shoulder all the time. You have better things to do.
- A depressed person is different from a grieving person in that he refuses to work towards the light.
- The Tragic Triad!
- A negative assessment of self
- A negative assessment of environment
- A negative outlook about the future
~ Dr.Rangarajan, Psychiatrist, Malar Hospital, Chennai, India.
- The Law of Perseverance:
People who succeed never stop trying. People who stop trying never succeed. - In every significant event there has been a bold leader, a shared vision, and, most often, an adversary.
~~ Fred Smith - The qualities of a great man are:
- vision
- integrity
- courage
- understanding
- the power of articulation
- and profundity of character.
~~ Dwight D Eisenhower
- The mind is the limit.
As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it. As long as you really believe 100 percent!
~~ Arnold Schwarzenegger - In skating over thin ice, our safety is in our speed.
~~Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) - “Don’t skate to the puck; skate to where it’s going.”
~~ Hockey legend Wayne Gretzky - “In real life, unlike in Shakespeare, the sweetness of the rose depends upon the name it bears. Things are not only what they are. They are, in very important respects, what they seem to be.”
Ten steps to Happiness
Ten Steps to Inner Happiness!
By Brad Swift.
I find it interesting that although the United States is considered by many to be the most prosperous country in the world and the most prosperous society in history, so many of us are unhappy. It has also been my observation that an increasing number of us are awakening to this fact, and are searching for ways to be happier.
Of course, there are volumes written about this subject, so this top ten list isn’t intended to be the final word on the subject. But, taking some of these suggestions to heart and putting them into action will move you well down the road to inner happiness.
- STOP:
- WHAT IS INNER HAPPINESS?:
- What will bring me inner happiness?
- How will I know when I’ve experienced a new level of inner happiness?
- What will it look like, feel like, what will be happening or not happening in my life?
- Where would I want to experience more inner happiness?
- At work? At home? With my family and friends?
- SHIFT YOUR ATTITUDE TO ONE OF ‘DESERVABILITY’:
- HANDLE LIFE’S DETAILS ONCE AND FOR ALL:
- ELIMINATE WHAT DETRACTS FROM HAPPINESS:
- ADD IN MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY:
- FIND YOUR BALANCE BETWEEN INNER WORK AND OUTER EXPRESSION:
- KEEP WATERING THE ROOTS OF YOUR HAPPINESS TREE:
- SPREAD IT AROUND:
- ACKNOWLEDGE THE ‘SHADOW’ AND MOVE ON:
In a recent interview with small business guru Michael Gerber, author of The E-Myth Revisited, I asked him what one key step or strategy would it give to listeners that they could put into place in their businesses that would make the biggest difference. He summarized it in one word — stop! Stop and take the time to really think through what you’re doing.
The advice is just as sound in our personal lives. Most of our lives are simply running out of control. It’s like we have our ‘pedal to the metal’ and we don’t know how to take our foot off, or perhaps we’re afraid of what will happen if we do. I’m more concerned about what will happen if we don’t. So, start getting access to a greater degree of inner happiness by first stopping. Sounds paradoxical? Maybe, but it’s a vital first step.
One of the most important reasons to stop the frenetic pace of your life for a while is so you can begin to answer the question, “What is inner happiness?” Once you’ve spent a bit of time on that one, go on to these:
This is a new word that a participant in one of my workshops recently coined. I like what happens from combining ‘deserve’ with ‘ability.’ We are all able to shift our attitude to one of deserving happiness. And if you aren’t then there may be some deep seated emotional blocks that need to be addressed through counseling or some other channels. This step is summarized in one of my favorite sayings, “Suffering is optional.” You deserve to be happy.
The details I’m referring to are those basic needs that we all have — food, clothing, shelter, love, etc. Is it possible to have inner peace while your outer life is in turmoil? Yes, actually I believe that it is possible, but I also believe it’s a lot more challenging and so unnecessary. It’s difficult to take the time to contemplate what will bring you true inner happiness when your stomach keeps growling from lack of food. Go take care of your stomach first.
These next two steps are so simple in nature that their power can easily be missed. If you want inner happiness (or pretty much anything else), eliminate from your life that which detracts from it. This includes those emotional blocks I spoke about earlier. It may also include the elimination of ‘toxic relationships,’ clutter around your home, unsatisfying work, excess weight, etc.
Once you’ve eliminated ’stuff’ that makes you unhappy or detracts from your happiness, you’ve now made room for adding in what will contribute to your happiness. This can work on many different levels. For example, once I cleaned and organized my office, and eliminated many of the file folders that surrounded my desk, there was room to add some beauty to my office decor. I now have a small fountain on top of my oak filing cabinet, a decorative aquarium on the library table and several plants (including a Christmas Cactus which is beautifully blooming as of this writing.) But when I was surrounded by clutter, there was no room for these beautiful additions. My surroundings now contribute to my happiness.
I’m currently reading a wonderful book by Wayne Muller entitled, Sabbath: Restoring the Sacred Rhythm of Rest. (Bantam Books, April 1999) The following passage points to this important step to happiness:
“The noise of our lives made us deaf, unable to hear when we are called, or from which direction. Henri (a friend of Muller’s and a priest) said our lives have become absurd — because in the word absurd we find the Latin word absurdus, which means deaf. In our spiritual life we need to listen to God who constantly speaks but whom we seldom hear in our hurried defense.
On the other hand, Henri was fond of reminding me that the word obedient comes from the Latin word audire, which means “to listen.” Henri believed that a spiritual life was a pilgrimage from absurdity to obedience — from deafness to listening.”
If you’re living a loud life of absurdity, it’s important to add in moments of peaceful rest and solitude so you can listen and hear life’s call to you.
As you identify what provides you with inner happiness it’s important to keep doing them. While this may sound so obvious as to be not worth mentioning, it’s surprising how often people stop doing what they know works. If watering the roots produces luscious fruit then keep watering the roots. If devoting the first hour of each day in quiet meditation and reflection helps you stay centered and present throughout your day and that makes you happy, then don’t drop that special time out of your routine.
Happiness doesn’t have to be a one-person show. While it may begin with you and end with you, in between are plenty of opportunities to spread it around to others. You will probably find that spreading it around simply adds to your own experience of joy and satisfaction, so don’t be stingy with it.
And from time to time even the happiest among us will have occasion for sadness. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate our happiness. So, when those days come along, embrace them. Allow yourself to be present to whatever there’s just know that you don’t need to stay stuck in the shadows. Acknowledge them and then, when you’re ready, move on.
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